I loved this article so much! And when you described your idea I slowly started to smile. I have an abusive narracacist sociopath immediate family member constantly trying to severely destroy my life. A touch of shame seems the perfect remedy. Although just one suggestion. I would clean it up first so the shame exists as a living thing but not still tangled with my own energy. So that it’s not my shame but shame as a living being that will invoke and evoke hers and grow. I would also put some caveats in because underneath many narcissists can be coming from a sense of shame about who they are that they can’t face. Then they round that on others. So I would word it well. Shame that you cannot hide from anymore that exposes you as you cause harm to others and that ch be tuned on no one but yourself.
Oh my gosh Adrienne!!! Why did I feel such an intense connection with you as I read the post??? It felt like a deep seated remembering of sorts? I don't know why.
I completely completely recognise staying in the broom closet terrified to even process or talk about my powers. And the shame? The last bits of it literally burned away through goddess Kali this January. And I'm so so grateful for that!
Fabulous! I'm heartened to hear that not all of us carry around shame we don't need. Shame that's long since been processed. Shame that isn't even ours. Shame we inherited it or took on, for reasons. Time to let it all go, reasons or no!
I love the idea of calling witches to release their shame (be gone!) but may I ask why you're releasing your shame to go to another person/body? Why not release it into the light of Source/Creator, or if you don't believe in that, then set the intention for it to be cleansed/washed away by water, dissolve into air, burned away by a flame, etc.?
I would never wish my shame onto anyone, regardless of who they are — and even if they directly wronged me at some point. Even just the notion that there's people in the world that need to be shamed doesn't sit well with me. The world needs more LOVE, not less. And the people who do "bad things" are preciously the ones who are most lacking in love (that's not to say we should go out and invite these people into our lives by any means, but we can have good intentions from afar at least).
Thank you for this. You're not the only person to ask a question along these lines and it's offered me the opportunity to clarify my thoughts to the point where I'm going to write a follow up piece on this. But here's the short answer: you're absolutely correct that the world needs more love. But love doesn't always look the way we expect it to. Sometimes love looks like standing up to bullies out of love for those being harmed. And all energies, even "low vibe" ones like shame, can be in service of love and growth. We're not here to experience unconditional love, that's where we came from and to whence we'll return. We're here to learn and grow and experience the full range of energies. That's why I thank my shame before releasing it. It helped me grow, and now I'm setting it free so it can help someone else grow.
Thank you for your thoughtful response and I can now better see where you're coming from. I agree with you that love doesn't always look like we expect it to — we often learn and grow from the "negative" emotions and experiences the most. However, it feels to me a little like "playing God" still where there's a belief that we should have any part of other people's journey or that we need to affect people to change because of our released shame, instead of allowing that person to have their own emotions and trust their own higher self and spirit team will guide them on their journey as they're meant to (whether how seemingly fast/slow that is — or even if at all. Some people are simply not meant to grow in this particular lifetime). Personally, I would rather affect change in the world by showing up in the best way I can and leading by example. Those who are meant to learn from me will, and the others are simply not my people.
While I'm not sure I'm completely on board with this idea yet, I'm intrigued and may be swayed haha. I look forward to your follow up post on this :)
Also: I LOVE the idea of thanking your shame before setting it free. I never thought of that before, but that's a wonderful practice in acceptance.
I will be the first to say, always: if something doesn't resonate, then it isn't for you. It's totally okay to not be on board if it doesn't jibe with you. But if this intrigues you, then maybe there's something to explore there.
I completely agree that we are not in charge of anyone else's journey and it's not up to us to mete out universal justice. Karma does a much better job than we ever could at that. This is about empowering ourselves to return unwanted energy to the sender, like holding up a mirror and allowing them to decide what to do with what they see.
I loved this article so much! And when you described your idea I slowly started to smile. I have an abusive narracacist sociopath immediate family member constantly trying to severely destroy my life. A touch of shame seems the perfect remedy. Although just one suggestion. I would clean it up first so the shame exists as a living thing but not still tangled with my own energy. So that it’s not my shame but shame as a living being that will invoke and evoke hers and grow. I would also put some caveats in because underneath many narcissists can be coming from a sense of shame about who they are that they can’t face. Then they round that on others. So I would word it well. Shame that you cannot hide from anymore that exposes you as you cause harm to others and that ch be tuned on no one but yourself.
Excellent suggestions!
Count me in for the Great Shame Sharing. I will do the steps you posted and then inbox you.
Hooray! Thank you!
You are welcome
I absolutely love this! It beautifully ties into efforts I have been making to acknowledge, appreciate and release some parts from myself.
Oh my gosh Adrienne!!! Why did I feel such an intense connection with you as I read the post??? It felt like a deep seated remembering of sorts? I don't know why.
I completely completely recognise staying in the broom closet terrified to even process or talk about my powers. And the shame? The last bits of it literally burned away through goddess Kali this January. And I'm so so grateful for that!
I have no shame as there's nothing for me to be ashamed of. 🧹
Fabulous! I'm heartened to hear that not all of us carry around shame we don't need. Shame that's long since been processed. Shame that isn't even ours. Shame we inherited it or took on, for reasons. Time to let it all go, reasons or no!
Well, tbh I do have some shame and it's mostly related to gender dysphoria.
Time to thank it for helping you realize who you truly are and let it go!
Even transgender people who have the surgery still have gender dysphoria. It doesn't go away, but becomes a little better to manage
Feeling this! Have definitely had to come out of the broom closet myself.
I love the idea of calling witches to release their shame (be gone!) but may I ask why you're releasing your shame to go to another person/body? Why not release it into the light of Source/Creator, or if you don't believe in that, then set the intention for it to be cleansed/washed away by water, dissolve into air, burned away by a flame, etc.?
I would never wish my shame onto anyone, regardless of who they are — and even if they directly wronged me at some point. Even just the notion that there's people in the world that need to be shamed doesn't sit well with me. The world needs more LOVE, not less. And the people who do "bad things" are preciously the ones who are most lacking in love (that's not to say we should go out and invite these people into our lives by any means, but we can have good intentions from afar at least).
Thank you for this. You're not the only person to ask a question along these lines and it's offered me the opportunity to clarify my thoughts to the point where I'm going to write a follow up piece on this. But here's the short answer: you're absolutely correct that the world needs more love. But love doesn't always look the way we expect it to. Sometimes love looks like standing up to bullies out of love for those being harmed. And all energies, even "low vibe" ones like shame, can be in service of love and growth. We're not here to experience unconditional love, that's where we came from and to whence we'll return. We're here to learn and grow and experience the full range of energies. That's why I thank my shame before releasing it. It helped me grow, and now I'm setting it free so it can help someone else grow.
Thank you for your thoughtful response and I can now better see where you're coming from. I agree with you that love doesn't always look like we expect it to — we often learn and grow from the "negative" emotions and experiences the most. However, it feels to me a little like "playing God" still where there's a belief that we should have any part of other people's journey or that we need to affect people to change because of our released shame, instead of allowing that person to have their own emotions and trust their own higher self and spirit team will guide them on their journey as they're meant to (whether how seemingly fast/slow that is — or even if at all. Some people are simply not meant to grow in this particular lifetime). Personally, I would rather affect change in the world by showing up in the best way I can and leading by example. Those who are meant to learn from me will, and the others are simply not my people.
While I'm not sure I'm completely on board with this idea yet, I'm intrigued and may be swayed haha. I look forward to your follow up post on this :)
Also: I LOVE the idea of thanking your shame before setting it free. I never thought of that before, but that's a wonderful practice in acceptance.
I will be the first to say, always: if something doesn't resonate, then it isn't for you. It's totally okay to not be on board if it doesn't jibe with you. But if this intrigues you, then maybe there's something to explore there.
I completely agree that we are not in charge of anyone else's journey and it's not up to us to mete out universal justice. Karma does a much better job than we ever could at that. This is about empowering ourselves to return unwanted energy to the sender, like holding up a mirror and allowing them to decide what to do with what they see.